How To Travel As A Couple…

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I met Intrepid Escape 18 months ago, and he had me at ‘hello’ “I backpacked around the world for 8 months”. It’s always refreshing to meet someone that shares the passion you have for life, and in our case for travel. I personally think that travelling with someone is far harder than travelling solo. Sure you need to be brave and confident to travel alone, but you need all that and more to spend that kind of time with someone else. You might not have the stresses of everyday life, but instead you have different ones, like, where are we going to sleep tonight? Where is our next pay-cheque coming from?4 Space

When you’re travelling there are times when you won’t be working, or you’ll be working from home. So, where at home you might have your 9 to 5 jobs, whilst on the road you are often in each other’s pockets for long periods of time. It’s important to realise that you both need your own space, if you find yourselves snapping at each other or have some arguments then just take a little time out. Don’t forget – absence makes the heart grow fonder!

Athens
Athens

Talk

It’s easy for even the perfect couple to be lacking in communication. It’s easily the most important factor in any relationship and I’ll be the first to admit that I suck at it. Whilst travelling the importance of communication tripled, due to being in foreign countries and often without a lot of those home comforts. If you’re planning a big travel then you both need to discuss your expectations and what you both want to get out of the trip. I love to soak up the culture of a place, eat all their delicious food and relax, whereas my boyfriend is all about the adventure and adrenaline activities – so it’s all about compromise when you travel together. Be on the same page!

London
London

Spontaneity

This is one of my favourites and it’s the difference between a good relationship and a great relationship. It’s not something that should be left out in a normal relationship but it’s certainly harder whilst you’re travelling. For one day throw away travel plans, and your endless lists (or is that just me?!). Grab your partner and whisk them away, maybe on a Jet Ski? Just get away from your travels and plans, and spend some alone time together. If you haven’t got cash to splash then why not take a picnic down to the beach and watch the sunset? Its totally free to take a little midnight skinny dipping together! It’s about making that time for the two of you to just talk and give each other your full undivided attention.

A tip from my other half…Intrepid Escape

“In addition to all the other great tips here, my suggestion is to take turns planning your itinerary. Whether it’s for two days or two weeks, let your other half choose where you’ll stay, eat and your activities (you might want to set some ground rules and a budget!). It will give each of you a chance to take charge and you might even want to throw in a couple of surprises planned specifically for the other. You gain some trust in the other and always end up doing something you would have never come up with as a couple…

…And if your girlfriend writes a blog like this one, print it off and make sure she follows her own advice! :D”

Amsterdam
Amsterdam

Don’t let yourself go..

By this I don’t mean that girls should be getting acrylic nails, hair extensions and pedicures whilst travelling. I just mean that we should all try and maintain ourselves to what we are comfortable with and used to. If you usually get your eyebrows threaded and shave your legs three times a week then why stop because you‘re travelling? Its important to care for yourself and keep the romance alive just like you would at home. This isn’t just for the ladies! Listen up boys – I like a little stubble like the next gal, but after 5 months of travelling and no haircuts you might just start to find bits of food in that beard you’ve suddenly grown….not attractive! Just keep it a little tidy. Don’t forget – People care for those that care for themselves – so true!!

Isle of Whight
Isle of Wight

Eat Well

Eating well is essential for a number of reasons. Firstly, you need to stay healthy whilst travelling, the last thing you want is to lack the nutrition you need and result in feeling unwell. However if you are unwell let your insurance worry about it and see a doctor, because avoiding it will certainly cause stress and put strain on your relationship. Secondly, I don’t know about you but I have a serious case of ‘hangry’. When I get hungry I start to get a little snappy and agitated, and if both of you haven’t eaten then you are just asking for an argument – so keep topped up!

Wimbledon Championship Final
Wimbledon Championship Final

Kiss and Make Up

Now although I hope you can take something away from this blog, you WILL have an argument or two on your travels – it’s inevitable!! The key is to let it out, then move on and make up. My ultimate advice is that you should never go to bed on an argument. Therefore, you already have a deadline to sort out what is usually a very trivial argument. Forgive, forget and have a snog… Lastly, just remember that you are travelling the world with your best friend. It doesn’t get better than that, so enjoy it and make the most of it!

Paddle-boarding, Hampshire, UK
Paddle-boarding, Hampshire, UK

10 comments

  • Great advice! You learn a lot as a couple on the road (and we know!). I particularly like Scott’s advice about switching around the travel itineraries (we haven’t done that so far) — while compromise is important, sometimes pushing each other to do something out of our comfort zone is good too.

    • Hi Sean, thank you so much. You’re totally right, that’s on of the reasons why Scott suggested it, I know that he will encourage me to get out there and try new experiences, and hopefully vice-versa!

  • Your adventures look incredible! Thanks for sharing, I’d love to travel more with my Husband once our LO is a little older. Thank you also for connecting with me on Twitter, I really enjoyed reading your blog. I’ve nominated you for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award; There’s no pressure to accept, just sometimes I think that it’s nice for us bloggers to feel appreciated. Have a lovely weekend, Lottie x https://shopperlottie.com/inspiring-blogger-award/

    • Hi Lottie, thanks so much. I’m really pleased that you liked my blog, and thanks for the nomination that’s very sweet of you! Happy Travels!

  • What an absolutely lovely post – I couldn’t agree more with everything you have said.

    My husband and I have travelled a lot together, but have recently returned from our biggest ever trip – 4 months around Asia together. And we loved every second of it.

    I think the space thing is very important. As much as you should enjoy being with your partner, it’s also important to be happy on your own for a bit. I think it gives you time for some personal reflection.

    We did argue, but no where near as much as we thought we would in 4 months. As you said, it is inevitable. But when we thought about the the amazing experiences we were having, the arguments start to seem silly!

    • Hi Karianne, thanks so much for your comment! I’m really happy that you agreed with it, and you’re completely right – it’s essential that you remember what an amazing experience you are having and like you said, you almost forget about whatever trivial argument you were having!

  • Great post! Traveling as a couple can be a very rewarding challenge! You have to be willing to make a lot of compromises for your SO. I love the photos, and thanks for following us on twitter. You can check out some of our adventures at localnomads.com

    • Thanks for the comment Local Nomads! I’m glad you like the post :)

  • My husband traveled a lot together before we married (11 years). I always tell people that before they marry they must travel to a country that neither of them has been before and neither speaks the language. You learn so much about yourself and the person you are with being in a different country. You’ll see things you might not like and better knowing now vs. later. Great article.

    • I’m so glad you agree! I definitely think it shows you so much about the person you are with when you are struggling with foreign languages, lost in little villages and totally out of your comfort zone. Thanks for the comment, Lizzy

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